Transgender day of Remembrance 2014

Since its San Francisco origins in 1998 as a candle light vigil to mark the murder of Rita Hester, TDOR has grown into an international event, which commemorates the lives of trans people who have passed not just as a result of murder, but for a variety of reasons related to their gender difference.

The event gives us a chance to remember those people that had the strength to do things because of who they wanted to be. Usually these people are from a foreign country and often unknown. But this year, at this time, many of us will be remembering three such people from the UK. Lucy Meadows, Sara Flowers and Chrisie Edkins. While others here tonight will speak of Lucy, I’ve been invited to reflect on Chrisie. Anyone who knew Chrisie, knows that no-one could speak on her behalf, and even now, her family and close friends still struggle to express the loss that they’re feeling on a daily basis. So instead, I thought I would share three thoughts from Chrisie herself, that she prepared prior to her passing, which I think represent the woman and why we’ve gathered tonight.

The first is called respect

“……we often talk of the campaign for equality and diversity, but in a sad way, it seems to me that we already have this. Why would I say that though ? Simply because if you look in the media for coverage of trans people, you will see examples of discrimination, misunderstanding, prejudice and to be fair, sometimes celebration. All of which have parallels with other minority groups within society. We actually need to raise the standard of this equality for all groups and it seems to me that perhaps we’re actually campaigning for a more fundamental principle which my parents instilled in me from a very early age. I’m talking about respect. Showing respect is an old fashioned human behaviour which we’ve forgotten and should return to. For me, although its sad we need it, the real benefit of equal rights legislation, is that it encourages the practice of this respect, by making it illegal to prejudice or bully……”

The next was taken from an article called me

“….. I’ve never been able to understand attacks against trans people, either from inside or out. I was taught to believe a persons true character, values and behaviour is made up of so many qualities ranging from education, job, hobbies, friends, upbringing, that by the time you consider their gender, either past or present, its probably such a small piece of the jigsaw that its probably irrelevant…..”

Finally, I thought I’d end with something from chrisie talking about the inspiration for her songwriting

“……a friend told me of a quote from the NoH8 campaign which I’m hoping to work into a song. It simply says…..Giving people equal rights or respect does not take rights away from you. It just makes it illegal for you to force your prejudice on, or bully them. I like that……”

Chrisie was an extraordinary talent as a musician and a songwriter. Her passing has been a tragic loss for her family and friends as well as our community. Tdor 2014 has been a year that has touched me personally for the loss of Lucy, Sara and Chrisie and although its my sincere hope in the future we wont need such an event, its touching to know that if we do, we can come together in commemoration and support for each other.

Love and Strength


Transgender Day of rememberance 2013


Although it’s natural at this time of year for our thoughts to turn to events like the Rotherham weekend, thanksgiving and ultimately Christmas, there is another event in the November calendar which is significant for our community. I’m talking of the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR), which is held internationally on 20th November.

TDOR was the brainchild of Gwendolyn Ann Smith to commemorate those victims who were killed simply for expressing the gender they knew themselves to be inside. For being honest and open about who they were, confronting transphobia and prejudice. Initially, the event was held in honour of Rita Hester, whose murder on November 28th, 1998 led to a candle light vigil in San Francisco in 1999. (Rita Hester’s murder, like most transgender murder cases has yet to be solved.) From this humble beginning, a web project called “Remembering Our Dead” was launched which grew in turn to the TDOR.

TDOR is now a significant worldwide event, in particular in Brazil, the USA and Honduras. Why these countries ? The answer is frighteningly simple. More than half of all transphobic murders worldwide occurred in Brazil. In Honduras, trans people are routinely killed at the rate of one a week, all in a country with a population smaller than London. Many people suggest that recorded figures from these countries are actually the tip of the iceberg, since many crimes of this nature aren’t actually recorded. Further, even the published figures don’t record the stories of trans people who took their own lives as a result of transphobic bullying.

But why should we in the UK be concerned with what appears such a remote event ? Again, the answer is very simple. Nearly 200 transphobic murders were painstakingly recorded last year by the Transrespect vs Transphobia project (TvT research project (2012) “Transrespect versus Transphobia worldwide” This project recorded and gave names to victims of transphobia across Europe. Here in the UK, we should see TDOR as an opportunity not just to remember the names and lives of Andrea Waddell, Sonia Burgess and Destiny Lauren, but also to raise awareness of the wider issues of trans-discrimination and transphobia.

Fortunately, we are privileged to live in compassionate times, sensitive to hatred based violence. But even now the deaths of those based on anti-transgender hatred or prejudice are largely ignored by the media. TDOR therefore serves several purposes. It mourns and commemorates the lives of our brothers and sisters who might otherwise be forgotten. It gives our community the opportunity to show the love and respect for our people in the face of national indifference. TDOR puts names and pictures and reminds us we are their brothers, sisters, fathers and mothers. Lastly, it gives our allies a chance to step forward with us and stand in vigil.
Each year, there are a number of TDOR events held throughout the UK. Not just in the traditional centres of LGBT population like Manchester, London and Brighton, but also places like Sheffield, Birmingham, Gloucester and Edinburgh. You can find a list of services at both the Beaumont Society website news pages, and also the Facebook and twitter feed. Why not take a visit, to see if there is one near you ? The QR Code will take you to the news page of our website, with links to various events in November. Add you voice and show your support.

I’d like to thank the wonderful Adam Bouska and his work with the NOH8 campaign for the use of the photograph at the top of this article. To learn more about this great organisation – follow the link
You’ll be glad you did !