Breast Massage

In my earlier blog, I wrote a little about how a few simple exercises could be beneficial for toning the pectoral muscles underneath the breast tissue area, which can help improve the general toning and provide some enlargement too.

In addition to these exercises, another technique you can practice is to massage and check your  breasts.  Besides having a beneficial effect on breast growth, self examination of your breasts is an important habit to get into for all women, including transgender women at every stage of their transition.

Why does massage help ?  Well, your breasts are largely composed of fatty tissues and adipose fats, each of which respond very well to massage. By massaging your breasts, you stimulate the supporting tissues and the lymph circulation.  Each of which has a positive effect on the firmness and shape.  It also triggers a healthy hormonal response, increasing the levels of oxytocin, which can be a very effective method to increase breast size.

Done regularly, you’ll notice that your breasts will develop and become more toned and have an improved appearance, which can help improve your self confidence.

How to do it

Massage using very firm pressure using circular, inward & upward strokes for 5-10 min once or twice daily.

  1. Apply some massage oil or breast cream on your breasts. This is to help reduce the unpleasant feeling due to fiction. Oils and creams will make you feel more comfortable while massaging.
  2. Start massaging from the centre of your breasts, use a firm pressure with your palms. Follow the contours of the breasts from inwards to outwards. Ensure your hands are moving from the outside of your body towards the middle in a circular motion. Repeat about 25 times.
  3. Using alternate hand movements, sweep from the underarms area upwards & inwards towards the front. Again, repeat this about 25 times.
  4. Use both hands lifting the breast upwards with firm support, for another 25 times.
  5. Repeat step 2, with lighter strokes and without pushing the bust inwards.
  6. Repeat for your other breast.

For best results, work directly on the breast tissue, rather than through the fabric of a blouse or bra. Use a pressure that feels comfortable and take your time, working the area slowly. You can use this technique laying down or standing up, but use a gentle lotion to get the best effect.
One last thing I want to emphasise while you’re doing this, which is very important ! While you’re doing this, check your breast tissue for any signs of abnormalities, like redness, soreness or lumps. I’m sure that you don’t need me to tell you that this is for signs of cancer or other serious illness, so I’ll just stick with encouraging you to get into the regular habit of doing it. Please !

Love and strength

Madds

 

Those last few kilos…..

I was chatting to Joanna yesterday evening about what sort of things she gets asked  by girls in the group and one of the hot topics that came up quickly was the subject of your operations and weight.  It seemed that one of the common themes from the girls she had spoke to was the difficulty they had in hitting their ideal weight for the various operations.

Sometimes, those last few kilos are just as hard to shift as the ones that get you started.  But the good news is with a little help, you can get there and not just get the body you want, but also the operation too !!

When we start with diets, we’re filled with ambition, expectation and enthusiasm, but no matter what diet you follow, none of them mention two of the most important facts of weight loss – “It takes time !!” and “You’re going to plateau” occasionally as you metabolism adapts and changes.  It’s at these latter times, its important to remember what I call “The vicious cycle of dieting” to realise where you are in the process and also to stay focussed

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The vicious cycle of dieting

Let’s talk about those last few kilos and their effect on our motivation.  Why do they stay firmly stuck in place ?  Well, initially, when we start our diets, we get a lot of “easy wins”.  We lose water weight and some of our natural bloatedness reasonably quickly and all seems good.  Our friends our also probably complimenting us frequently and encouraging us to continue.  

Then at various points along our diet, we’ll “plateau” as our metabolism changes.  These plateaus are tricky, particularly for transgender women, because in addition to the hormonal changes that your body is adapting to, the associated changes in metabolism mean that you’re going to have to work harder to burn the same amount of calories.   As our friends get used to the new you, they’ll probably be less vocal and giving of “high fives”.  Suddenly, what we’re going through isn’t so interesting.

Also, when we’re close to meeting our goals, we’re probably starting to “feel the slog” of it and getting bored.  This is a key failing of most diets.  You have to want and enjoy dieting and the food you’re eating.  Otherwise, you’ll find excuses to wriggle out of the regime and justify some sneaky bonuses (Like chocolate cake on the weekend if you’re Joanna).  I know, sticking to calorie restrictions, hitting the gym and drinking all that water can get boring, but stick with it !!

Each time you plateau, particularly with your target weight in sight, is the time to look back at what you’ve accomplished up until this point. Remember, as Transgender women, your ambition is body sculpture rather than muscle building.  If you’re hitting the gym too hard, you’ll build up muscle which weighs more than fat  So ask yourself, is this what’s happening to you ?  Strike a balance between working out and diet, to ensure you’re getting the results you want.

If you’re really stuck, it might be that you’ve set a weight goal for yourself that’s just a bit too low and you might be fighting your bodies natural wants and needs.  Is the weight you’ve set yourself the right one for your size, age and health profile ? Ask yourself how you reached your target in the first place and regularly check that its right for you.  Remember, ultimately, it’s your body and have the confidence to say what’s right for you.

Drop me a message here in the comments and let me know how you’re getting on and what your frustrations are, would love to hear and work with you !!!

Love always

Madds

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Prison visits

Occasionally, as part of the talks that i give, I get asked what we do as part of the Beaumont Trust Trans prisoners project that i run.

As you’ll probably expect, i can’t go into specifics of prisoner details, but i thought I’d share with you some general details about what a visit is like.

Using the Prisoner Voicemail system, prisoners will usually reach out to us regularly asking for help, information, or maybe just as someone to listen to their general routine and progress on classes or rehabilitation programmes they are working on. We can then listen to these messages and respond to them, keeping an exchange of info going between the prisoner and Trust, which on it’s own might not seem like much, but, when you’re inside and abandoned by your family and subject to abuse, can make a real powerful difference.

About once a month, prisoners will reach out for an arranged visit. Usually on a weekend, when there isn’t much going on, or when it’s mutually convenient. At this point I’ll ring the prison to let them know I’m coming (experience shows this is a good idea) and then arrange the specifics of any visits. Some of those I’ve done up until now have been

  • Makeovers
    Training
    Book reading
    Meditation class
    Pride and scene updates

Talking about each in turn briefly

Makeovers. In these sessions, (which require a lot of pre planning and willingness from the prison director) I’ll take in a range of samples and sponges and makeover a prisoner, while other transwomen look through the makeup and any books i bring in while they’re waiting. We’ll then chat about looks they may want to try the next time I come visit. It’s a pretty fraught hour and hard work !!!

Training. Sometimes the prisoner will want to arrange training for the staff of the prison as part of a coaching or mentoring activity. These visits tend to be a lot more straightforward than any sessions which require you to bring in physical items and usually take the form of a TED talk around a table with whatever officers are able to attend.

Book ReadingWhere we do book readings ill being in a number of copies of a book and, w we’ll take roles and sit around a table, acting out the story. These are great fun, as the inmates get to express themselves, practice their feminine voices and thespian skills.

It’s great fun and quite a scene. (I wholeheartedly apologise to some of the authors we might have offended !!)

Meditation
Meditation classes help with improving prisoners mental health. Something which is particularly important for trans prisoners who will often experience feelings of isolation and abuse while inside. Reactions to these conditions vary, but will usually include self harm, or violence against others and in the worst cases attempts of suicide.

On top of these activities, I also try to collect magazines to send in to prisoners, particularly trans magazines like Transliving, which help inform prisoners of the trans scene outside of their prison and help make them feel part of something. We’ve also historically sent in clothes, by special arrangement, but this is type of activity is reducing because many prisons are now actively preventing this.

Would you like to be involved in this ? Maybe you have an idea of somethig you would like to share that would help us improve the lives of transwomen in prison ? I’d love to hear from you ! Drop me a message with your details and I’ll be happy to get in touch.

Transgender Empowerment: Making the World a Better Place

I believe we are living in an age of Transgender empowerment. Transgender women the world over are increasingly making positive contributions to society and its various communities. By and large, they are increasingly empowered to take decision about different aspects of their life and profession.
Benefits of Transgender Empowerment:
  • Transgender empowerment adds to confidence of Transgender women in their ability to lead meaningful and purposeful lives. It removes their dependence on others and makes them individuals in their own right.
  • They are able to lead their lives with dignity and freedom.
  • It adds to their self esteem.
  • It gives them a distinct identity.
  • They are able to gain positions of respect in society.
  • They are able to make meaningful contributions to the well-being of society.
  • They act as capable citizens to make the country achieve enhanced Gross Domestic Product (GDP) growth.
  • Studies have shown that by letting Transgender women express themselves in their authentic identity, they make a more profitable contribution to a companies results.
  • They get fair and equitable access to resources of the company and country.
Necessity of Transgender’s Empowerment
  • Without Transgender womens empowerment, we cannot remove injustice and gender bias and inequalities.
  • If Transgender women are not empowered, they cannot enjoy security and protection in life.
  • It also provides them a safe working environment.
  • Empowerment acts as a powerful tool against exploitation and harassment of Transgender women.
  • It is a great means to get adequate legal protection for Transgender women.
  • If not socially and economically empowered, Transgender women cannot develop their own identity.
  • Transgender women are highly creative and intelligent which makes it imperative to receive their contributions in socio-economic activities.
  • For a just and progressive society, Transgender women need to be provided equal opportunities for work
Means of Transgender Empowerment
  • Education: Without proper and adequate education, Transgender women cannot become empowered individuals. They need to be encouraged to go for higher studies so that they can contribute significantly in the creation of a knowledge society.
  • Communication Skills: Without developing skills for effective communication, Transgender women cannot make their voices heard.  It is essential for them to communicate effectively to become successful. As leaders, they need to put across their points to the people so that a family, team or company can be effectively managed.
  • Disposable Income: Transgender women need to earn well to have their say in important financial decisions governing their lives. Being financially independent gives Transgender women power over their lives and also contributes to the growth of businesses.
  • Power of Internet: Access to the internet has opened the floodgates of knowledge and awareness and increased social interaction reach, influence and understanding of the needs of Transgender women. The liberalizing influence of the World Wide Web has broken all taboos, myths and misconceptions regarding Transgender women and the LGBTQIA community.
Conclusion:  Transgender Empowerment helps to make the society and world a better place to live in and march forward on way to inclusive participation. It means increase happiness for the family and the organizations where Transgender women make a difference.

Press Release – YNotbU Angel Investment in Transortium

Transortium

We were delighted to hear about Heather Flanagan’s work in establishing a new organisation in the United States called Transortium. Speaking to Heather it quickly became clear that not only did she share a lot of the same values we do, but also had a compelling vision for improving the issues Transgender people face when it comes to integrating into society, pre, during and post transition.

Heathers goal for Transortium is that it should be a hub for bridging the gap between the Trans community and wider society. This bridge is not only made up of information and resources, but training for organisations and the trans community as well.  Through these initiatives they hope to be able to facilitate and ease integration between the transgender community and the wider society.

Because we share in Transortums values and mission, we were only too pleased to be become not only a founding Angel investor in the organisation, but also their partner in the United Kingdom.

You can find out about the Transortium organisation by clicking on any of the following links, or by dropping us a message.  We’ll be only to pleased to help you.

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#Transgirlfitness

SavedPicture-2017111392129.jpgWhen my sister Janiz got in touch with me a little while ago, to satisfy her usual makeup fix (She’s worse than me, at least i don’t buy lipstick because it tastes like chocolate) we got to chatting and i asked her what was new with her.

Seems she had got a new tattoo done, so, i asked her to pop me a photo and when it came through, I couldn’t help but say ‘wow !!!” She had dropped almost 60 lbs from when we last chatted by video on my birthday and looked amazing !!!!

“You alright sis ?” She asked, so i had to say “Kitty, you look amazing !! Something obviously agrees with you – spill the beans !!!!

Jaisha has always been into her fitness and since becoming a qualified instructor has been working hard in the gym and you can really see the benefits. Chatting away, we came to the idea that we should bring her street and gym workout routines, as well as her lifestyle and motivation coaching to what we’re doing at TransgenderMakeupAdviceandSupport. Just like that our #transgirlfitness was born !!! Two trans women, doing it for themselves !!!

I’m so excited that she has found her passion and we’re so excited to be able to bring this to you. There’s nothing quite like going into business with your little sister and the excitement of having fun and supporting our community.

More to follow – very soon !!!